the reality

Disclaimer: This is not a men-beating piece. If you think it is you are probably too sensitive. Chuckles~

Whoever said independent gals don’t need rescuing at times?

I think, once upon a time, guys looked out for girls who’re sweet, demure, and look submissive. It’s in a guy’s nature to wanna take care of such a girl.

As society matures, psyches change.

It seems from the guys I’ve dated, they are looking for girls who (look like they) are strong, spirited and independent now. Why so? Becoz they want the girls to be able to not just take care of themselves but the households, freeing the men to do what they like – shop for expensive gadets, work, watch TV, mahjong, what have you.

But they don’t need another mother to fuss over them. So these girls should be strong and not overly naggy, and at the right times, they should just be sweet, demure and submissive enough… bonus being they look like gorgeous vases. Hot, the in-word I was taught.

So guys want everything. Well so do girls.

Those who know me well know I aint any SYT. I dunno if I have ever been one, since nobody’s ever guessed my age younger than I really am. Seemingly independent till you really know me. Can’t cook, can’t drive, can’t kill a rat. But I know my strengths. I am an illusionist. (Haha!)

So I am supposed to be independent. And we are supposed to be able to lead our lives lovingly independently. We can date people of another gender. There is trust. We can go to a party and split up, joining our friends, and have fun. At the end of the day, we should get back together and tell each other stories. And come to a mutual realization: Hey thank god for you! The world’s beautiful, but with you, it’s amazing!

But when one day I need rescuing, I hope you can see. An illusionist needs to go on a holiday too you know. Independence does not equate 100% self-sufficiency… or rather, not all the time.

And whoever said independent gals don’t need rescuing at times? J